While Fertility Awareness (FA) for the purpose of contraception cannot be learned in one single post, my hope is to bring the method to your attention because it is:
- friendly to our environment
- allows your sex life to become a private affair between you and your honey.
Guys don’t run off, you may want to tell your lady about this. Two books I highly recommend, and I do recommend that you buy both of them are Toni Weschler’s Taking Charge of Your Fertility and Katie Singer’s The Garden of Fertility.
Please do not attempt to use Fertility Awareness for contraception 1) without reading and studying the books thoroughly and 2) until you have charted the woman’s cycle faithfully for six months.
How Much Does Your Birth Control Cost?
Do you and your partner use prophylactics? This product can be costly, especially if you cannot tolerate latex or prefer using lambskin. Think of the production that goes into this product, the little packages littering the landfills. And what about those times when you run out? Oh no! Do you pay for birth control pills? Does your insurance provide birth control pills free of charge? Do you use an internal method of contraception? Unfortunately, hormonal contraception will have detrimental effects on a woman’s health in the long run; not to mention they are considered to be abortifacients.
How Much Does Fertility Awareness cost?
Contraception with Fertility Awareness has the beginning cost of your Digital Basal Thermometer (under $10) and the books (under $40).
- No costly appointments with your doctor
- No driving to the drugstore for prescriptions
- No monthly fees
- No packages or equipment of which to dispose
Birth control becomes a private affair between you and your lover.
Fertility Awareness Is Not Your Grandma’s Rhythm Method
Back in the day, a woman was instructed to count a set number of days from the beginning of her cycle to find the “safe” day. Many women ended up getting pregnant when they hadn’t really planned on it, using the “rhythm” method. The problem with this method is that you are assuming today’s fertility will be the same as it has been in the past, not to mention that every woman is different; one month may be longer or shorter than the last, and our cycle can be affected by stress in our daily life. With FA, you are aware of your fertility right now, today.
Fertility: Men vs. Women
Men are fertile 24/7/365. This is such beautiful design; if men were fertile sometimes, like women, the chance for conception would drop significantly.
Women, on the other hand, release an egg which is available for fertilization for 24 hours. Sometimes due to double ovulation, she may be fertile 48 hours each cycle. You might think, “If we could find that 24-48 hour period to abstain we’d be happy honeymooners for the rest of the month.” Not so quick, if you were trying to achieve pregnancy, the chances would become astronomical if you didn’t know how to determine that 24-48 hours. So the woman has fertile mucous (clear egg white texture) which is present for several days prior to ovulation. Sperm can live in fertile mucous up to five days! This increases the woman’s fertility from 24 hours to several days each cycle.
The Beauty of Fertility Awareness
With knowledge, women become in sync with their bodies. You know how PMS affects you, Fertility Awareness will help you to recognize why you feel more amorous! Of course, it is because we were designed to procreate and during ovulation we (usually unconsciously) become more friendly toward our partner.
Fertility Awareness makes it easier to understand why men are in overdrive when it comes to their love lives. They are driven because they are male, and must be fertile on demand. It also helps to explain how many women (accidentally) get pregnant their first time; young and in love, overcome with desire, hormones working overtime. Of course we can control ourselves using our logical brain, but it helps to have some understanding of how our hormones can affect us.
A Brief Outline for Contraception Using Fertility Awareness
It is very important to follow the rules exactly when your goal is contraception. There are three ways to track; using all three will give you optimum results. You can achieve good results with two methods but you absolutely must take your temperature as well as use one other method of charting.
- The woman’s temperature is taken orally daily at or very near the same time, after she has been asleep for three hours minimum (do not get up to use the bathroom, brush your teeth, get a drink of water, etc. before taking your temperature.)
- The woman tracks her cervical fluid
- The position of the cervix is charted
A Few Other Rules You Should Know About
- FA works best when you are in a committed relationship and both partners engage in the process of Fertility Awareness.
- Ideally the husband takes the responsibility of charting his wife’s temperature.
- Both partners examine the chart to decide when it is safe to engage in relations. If you are being more conservative and wish to avoid pregnancy at all costs, err on the side of caution.
- You may choose to use prophylactics during ovulation, but as we know, condoms can fail, thus increasing your chances of pregnancy. Instead engage in other fun ways of interacting with one another.
FA requires the commitment of a few minutes a day, and asks you to abstain during the short period of fertility. Remember the saying, “Absence makes the heart grow fonder?” It works with sex, too. While you are abstaining, flirt with your spouse, be loving and kind… anticipate the time you will soon be able to spend together, and when the abstinence period is over, have fun!